Learn How To Go With the Flow
Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” Lao Tzu
There is a popular saying that what we resist persists. But what does it really mean? The suggestion is to learn to go with the daily ebb and flow of life. Whatever you put your energy on is what will continue. Instead of resisting, we should go with it, accept it as part of the process.
Eckhart Tolle writes of it in his book The Power of Now. He states “if you cling and resist… it means you are effusing to go with the flow of life, and you will suffer. Dissolution is needed for new growth to happen. One cycle cannot exist without the other.”
Last week we talked about accepting change. To live in a space that is supported by trust in yourself and a curiosity to learn necessary lessons that provide for growth. Throughout the day, as we go to work or engage with our partners and children, we can simply allow what is happening to happen without a burning desire to control and change it. Life happens. Some events you will enjoy, others you will not. The key is to allow them to be what they are.
Sometimes in life there’s no problem and sometimes in there is no solution. In this space – between these apparent poles – life flows.” Rasheed Ogunlaru
Be open. Free yourself of the burden of fixing the world! If you find yourself stuck in traffic, that will not change by getting upset about it will it? Cars will not magically go faster or open up just for you. So why stress your mind, body, and spirit about it. Simply allow it. Chances are if you are troubled with impatience in traffic – the practice available to you in that moment is patience.
Many spiritual teachers believe that everything we experience in the outside world is a reflection of ourselves. The people closest to us serve as mirrors to who we really are. We gravitate to each other and support each other’s thoughts and behavior. The best way we can learn about ourselves is not trying to change what is happening around us, rather to learn to observe it. If there is anything that should change, it should be ourselves.
Planning is helpful. If you don’t know what you want, you’ll seldom get it. But, no matter how well you plan, you will fare better if you expect the unexpected. The unexpected, by nature, comes unseen, unthought, unenvisioned. All you can do is plan to go unplanned, prepare to be unprepared, make going with the flow part of your agenda, for the most successful among us envision, plan, and prepare, but cast all aside as needed, while those who are unable to go with the flow often suffer, if they survive.” David W. Jones
I have been trying it out on myself lately. If there is something that really bothers me about someone, and I label it, perhaps it is me that actually has that particular problem. If I have a keen ability to identify when people are being selfish, perhaps it is because I am recognizing behavior I exhibit when I am being selfish. Time to stop, choose to accept rather than react to the other person, and reflect on the parts of me that cause me to behave selfishly. Does that mean I have to tolerate poor behavior? Absolutely not. It means I do not have to get emotional about it.