Powerful Things You Can Do Instead Of Complaining
Humans are literally born complaining. The very first thing we do when we are born is to register a noisy complaint. From our earliest moments, we know that this is a cold and scary world in which we are all too often anxious and tired…but we evolve to know that not everything is ours to control, plan or get.
There is no clear goal to complaining. In fact, more often than not, complainers aren’t even interested in finding a solution to what they’re whining about. Even worse, complaining is all about choosing to stay in a negative state by projecting that negativity onto someone else.
Complainers are usually stuck in a destructive pattern of needing a captive audience to serve as a dumping ground for their negative emotions.
Who has the time to listen to all that complaining? Nobody does.
Life is not complicated. We are complicated. When we stop doing the wrong things and start doing the right things, life is simple. So, here are some powerful tips that can use in order twist your life and quit complaining.
Stop berating yourself for being a work in progress. – Start embracing it! Because being a work in progress doesn’t mean you’re not good enough today. It means you want a better tomorrow.
Stop doing immoral things simply because you can. – Start being honest with yourself and everyone else. Don’t cheat. Be faithful. Be kind. Do the right thing! It is a less complicated way to live.
Stop wasting time and money trying to acquire more of everything. – Start focusing on quality. High quality is worth more than any quantity, in possessions, friends and experiences.
Stop spending time with negative people. – Start spending time with nice people who are smart, driven and like minded. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be.
Stop trying to change people. – Start accepting people just the way they are. In most cases it’s impossible to change them anyway, and it’s rude to try. So save yourself from needless stress.
Stop being lazy and cutting corners. – Start avoiding future headaches by doing things right the first time. Always put your best foot forward. Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.
Stop procrastinating. – Start taking action and making changes. Action and change are often resisted when they’re needed most. Get a hold of yourself and have discipline. Discipline is choosing what you really want over what you want right now.
Stop worrying and complaining. – Start focusing on the things you can control and do something about them. Those who complain the most accomplish the least.
Stop being dramatic. – Start spending less time gossiping about problems and more time helping yourself and others solve them. Stay out of people’s needless drama and don’t create your own.
Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Start focusing on being everything to someone. Helping or pleasing everyone is impossible.
Stop making promises you can’t keep. – Starting under-promising and over-delivering on everything you do. Period.
Stop blaming others. – Start accepting responsibility for everything in your life. Blaming others accomplishes nothing and prolongs the complications you’re facing. Either you own your problems, or they will own you.
Stop reacting without a plan. – Start planning and working toward specific goals. Make a list of your top 3 – 5 goals. What’s most important to you? What do you value most? What 3 – 5 things do you most want to do in your life?
Stop confusing ‘being busy’ with ‘being productive.’ – Start tracking and measuring your progress. Being busy and being productive are two very different things. Results are more important than the time it takes to achieve them.
So there you have it. 15 different ways in which you can channel all your in-conformity and turn it into a good life resolution for yourself.
Start practicing this golden rules. If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you want money, provide value. If you want peace, then stop complaining. It works. It really is this simple.
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