Are You Really A Positive Person?
Although it may seem like the common cliché, this saying brings more truth than what most people have considered. Now, everyone knows how easy it is to be negative and thrive on other people’s misfortunes, but don’t you think it’s time to break out of these ways of thinking? It’s so easy to be negative. We are constantly surrounded by negativity that it’s become ingrained in our subconscious state of mind. This can manifest in many ways and from personal experience I can vouch for the following:
- Low self-esteem. Constantly wanting to change your body image, trying to keep up with trends and fashion.
- Constantly criticizing people whether they’re family, friends, peers, even celebrities.
- Self-sabotage (not doing the things you want or making excuses because you’re afraid).
- Constant self-doubt.
- Inability to hold on to happiness, or seeking it in material things.
Probably you’re thinking “these don’t apply to me”, “I am a very positive person”, “my subconscious is fine”, but have to you stopped to notice what your last positive and loving thought was? Let me make this easier. Common negative thoughts include:
- I can’t do this.
- I don’t want to do this. I don’t want to be here.
- Not this again!
- I wish I didn’t have to do _______.
- This makes me look fat.
- This outfit makes me look stupid.
- I hate Mondays.
- I don’t like *insert person/activity/thing*.
- I never get a break. I never get things right.
- No one wants me. Nobody cares about me.
- I feel lonely
- _______ doesn’t like me.
- If I do _______, people will laugh at me.
- I’m not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough.
If you have thought or said any of the above statements, you are being negative and unloving to yourself. Unfortunately, it’s easier to remember if you have had on e of the above thoughts recently, rather than a positive thought. But we all want positive things to come to us don’t we? Well I guess it’s time we break the pattern. There is a thing called The Law of Attraction which on a very basic level states that every good or bad (positive or negative) event that has happened to you has been attracted by you. You have the power to attract what your heart desires, but you have to train your mind to ward off the things you don’t want and ultimately understand that your thoughts form your reality. Here’s a cute little guide on how to apply this to your life. So if you focus on positive things, naturally you will attract the same. If you only pay mind to what’s wrong in your life and in everything around you, your reality will stay that way. There are two popular books on the subject, “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne and “The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham” by Esther and Jerry Hicks. I encourage you to look them up or just look up anything about positivity or The Law of Attraction. It’s food for the mind I assure you! Your mind is the most powerful tool you possess. Use it toward loving and discovering yourself as well as seeing the good in others, along with a deep sense of gratitude, you’re bound to change your reality for the greater good.