Drop the Comparison Game, It’s Way Too Boring
I know you’ve been there; we all have.
It’s that moment you’re standing next to a ‘perfect stranger’ when suddenly you find yourself sizing them up and comparing your beauty to theirs. Or maybe it’s with a close friend who always seems to be put together and on track. So you compare and analyze all the ways you’re better than or worse than, in the hope that somewhere in the mess of judgments you’ll find some worth. Or worse, that you’ll think of new ways you need to improve yourself.
People, it’s time to stop the comparison game, and here’s why.
It’s waaaaaaay too boring and exhausting. Putting so much energy into a lame act of self loathe won’t leave you with anything good.
Because there’s someone out there who’s felt the way you feel, and there’s likely even someone who’s looked at you with envy. There have been times they wished jet fuel ran through their body so they’d have enough energy to make it through the day. At some point somebody probably looked at you wishing they could have a glimpse of what you have.
They saw your smiles, laughter and infectious joy and wished they had an ounce of it for a day. When they witnessed your success as you acquired respect and recognition in your line of work, they wondered if they’d ever have that. They saw you living a “simple life” and dreamed of the day their own life may be so graceful and uncomplicated.
What they didn’t know was all the struggle you’d gone through in your own way, at your own time. How you couldn’t even imagine that someone, one day, would want to be in your shoes. You think to yourself, “If they only knew.”
The truth is, we all have our ups and downs in life, and we never know why someone’s life has turned out the way it has. So instead of getting caught up in their business, take a seat in your own life. This is where your true power lies.
There’s a couple of things I’m sure we can all agree on that everybody desires, like confidence, respect and admiration.
So now, realizing that we all, for the most part, want the same thing, it’s hard to imagine competing against one another and comparing ourselves on our way to creating it. When we’re focused on what we don’t have, lack permeates our thoughts and totally masks us from all that we already have to offer the world.
So when the inevitable contrast happens and you find yourself envying what another person has, use it as an opportunity. You can say to yourself, “Ahh, thanks for showing me an example of what I desire in my life. Where does that quality already exist within me and what can I do to accentuate it?!” Listen for the answers within you.
Now you’ve taken your power back. You’re even able to pay a compliment to the other person, lovingly. It feels amazing and empowering to be able to acknowledge all of the beautiful qualities within ourselves without needing outside approval. This is when we can comfortably remember our confidence and appreciate the powerful person standing next to us, for all the brilliance and strength they embody.
We are way more powerful when we realize that we’re all in this together. And hey, there is more than enough love to go around for all of us.